February - March: I still have so much to learn

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I'm an INFJ (and consistently test as one) and while you can't put everything on your type, the description really works for me, and learning about typical INFJ strengths and weaknesses has been a real help.

One INFJ trait is that we tend to see the big picture, pull together a lot of information well to make assessments but... get lost when it comes to the details.

I'm lost.

I'm doing my best. I think another thing I need to change is that I need to stop saying things like "work on Discord bot" as a checkbox, because that's _so vague_. Like, when is that box checked? When I totally code, implement, document, and share it (definitely not something I can do in one day right now). Is it "once I've started at this code for two hours, check the box?" (Yes, I'm aware of S.M.A.R.T. goals)

But even saying "Work on Discord bot for two hours"... rubs me the wrong way. Because sometimes you make so much progress in two hours, and other times, barely any at all. It's the same with saying something like "configure [feature X]" when... that could take two hours, or twenty, and at this point I don't know! Which means setting those daily three tasks that will make me stay focused and feel confident because way more stressful than I anticipated. Especially when you wind up checking none of the boxes.

How do I just... make myself function at 100% all the time? That's reasonable, right? Haha...

I also still struggle to take breaks that actually mean anything. My "breaks" are usually twitter, which, isn't really restoring energy... but if I don't, when am I gonna socialise?

Maybe I should try setting objectives in the morning, and then at the end of the day, recording three things I achieved... so I can set an objective of "work on Discord bot" and if that's all I do that day, maybe I can find three things I got out of it? Like, "completed feature X" "learned about AWS setups" and "learned about tracking down permissions conflicts and ownership issues with plugins".

It feels like cheating, but the thing is, _I'm_ the one setting the rules. And the KPIs! Everything I'm doing - the planner, the accountability tweeting, this blog - is all an attempt to improve myself - improve how I work now that I'm working on my own, a totally new thing for me - improve how I manage my projects - improve how I manage my own mind.

And I can't improve if I don't experiment. And beating myself up over failures won't let me get stronger, either. But not being afraid of failure is so hard for me, even when the cost of that failure is nothing but my own self-esteem - and only forced on me, by me.

I'm so easily disheartened. It's all too easy to over-promise to myself, under-deliver, and then find myself unable to focus on my work because I'm so demoralised over my inability to do something there's no way I'd ask someone else to do in that short a period of time, let alone when they're working on other projects at the same time.

I just don't know how to be realistic. I get S.M.A.R.T., but that whole "Realistic" part of the phrase?

I have. No. Idea. How to be realistic. And it's making me feel so lost.

I don't really know exactly how to tackle this right now. All I can really do is keep attempting to learn more, and solve the issue in new ways, and hope that eventually, one of them will work for me.